I’ve suffered my fair share of tragedies, but these were personal (except for the 2016 election which was personal and so much more). March and April 2020 (which, as a New Yorker, were the two worst months of my life) were terrifying, apocalyptic, and deeply weird all at once. An experience nothing had prepared me for.
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At the end of 2020, which was redeemed by Biden’s victory and game-changing COVID vaccines, I promised my daughter that in 2021 we would celebrate everything with twice the intensity and two-times longer than we normally would. Obviously, that didn’t happen.
We are now finally at the end of what I can honestly say is the worst year I’ve ever lived through as an adult.
Set into motion by an armed insurrection against our government, it feels like 2021 was (almost) all downhill from there. The third and fourth waves of COVID tossed us about, it became impossible to get into any kind of rhythm; time continued not to behave properly, and the isolation from friends never really stopped.
There were bright spots to be sure—almost nobody I’m close with got COVID or died from COVID; I wrote a book; I moved back into the city after 25 years away; and, the thing for which I’m most profoundly grateful, my daughter made it safely through the most complicated year that could be foisted upon a twenty year old.
So good riddance to 2021. All I have to say to 2022 is, “Be better.”
I’d really love to hear from all of you on this one:
What is a truly good thing that happened to you in 2021—despite everything?
What does it say that nothing immediately jumped to mind? Well, I did not start drinking again (I had quit in May 2020), so that's a huge good thing. But I guess the high point was that I got to work all year as a vaccinator, making sure people were safe from this horrible virus. I've vaccinated in large scale clinics, in people's homes and cars, in tents, in churches—anywhere I could talk someone into letting me vaccinate them. I've vaccinated people aged 5 to 102!
(I say your name 3 times and click my heels to bring the blessings of the gods upon you and your readers!) And I just wanted to say, that when you move to New York, Woman, you move in BIG! A great Book! A scintIllating pod cast! A brilliant Substack!
I rarely comment online but wanted to share my personal 2021 experience, hoping to inspire others who are struggling, encouraging everyone reading this to keep on hanging in there, despite whatever life is currently throwing at you.
I’ve been mostly bedridden after breaking my back on January 12th, 3 spinal fractures in all. I’ve lost count of hospitalizations, procedures, surgeries, etc.
Still can’t stand or walk on my own, but am aware of slow progress.
Also, for first 7 months of this year, I was legally blind, fast-growing cataracts now removed, tho even those surgeries had to be done under general anesthesia because of broken back.The good news from that: I can read my Christmas books now and see movies clearly!
I've walked through spiritual fire this year and feel transformed by countless dark days/nights of the soul tho I'm still figuring out what that means. Thus far, focusing on just being a jumper-cable for joy and helping/giving/loving as I can feels really good. In this tech age, so much of that can be done from wherever we are. Even our rehabilitation-recliners. Aho. :^)
Hope still floats and the Light still shines.
And, it always will.
Trust that as an inner promise that you secretly make to yourself.
May the New Year Bring the Peace and Healing We All Seek.
Keep up the great work, Mary...Thank You for being a "jumper-cable" for Truth!
Yes, the hits just kept coming. At 71, I’ve been in recovery from alcoholism for 12 years. I didn’t slip in 2020 or 2021, so I win, in spite of the waves of depression and loneliness that assailed. Just as we started putting things back together, another wave would hit, including my oldest granddaughter being diagnosed with glioblastoma. We persevere. Give it your best shot, 2022!😬
In November, I adopted Annie, my loving, loyal, 8-year-old yellow Labrador retriever. She takes me on walks and adventures several times a day, every day and—most important—at my leisurely 74-year-old pace! We rescued each other in what was yet another year of isolation for elders (and others, obviously).
We bought a condo we could afford with a view of Lake Michigan in Racine WI and are renovating it for our retirement in 2022. I'm taking my redundant Blue vote from Illinois to where it will matter. Already contributed to the (D) Lt. Gov who will challenge the moronic Ron Johnson for the Senate!
For ten years after my husband's death, I struggled to confront the impact of the financial and emotional abuse I suffered throughout my 25 year marriage. I was about to finally leave him when he was diagnosed with cancer and expected to live for just months. After his death, I had to deal with the mess I was left with on top of raising our 13yr old twins. It was only when I wrote a memoir to untangle the emotional upheaval that I finally stopped having nightmares about him and could move forward. This past April, my memoir (Our Better Selves: From Secrets and Lies to Healing and Forgiveness) was published and the response has been so up-lifting. So many women have experienced similar things and have no way to express their emotions or think they're the only one. Talking about it to others has helped us heal. But equally important, the book opens the door for discussions about the connection between domestic and financial abuse. This may seem like a leap, but the whole experience had me thinking about the ways our gov't uses many of the same tactics to thwart equality for women. Because legislation is now so influenced by money in politics, laws and rules are crafted in ways that keep women from having an equal say. An example of this would be all the money that was raised to get Amy Coney Barrett on the Supreme Court and now abortion rights are now tenuous at best. Republicans refuse to address issues that impact women the most like child care, paid family leave and universal pre-K. And, we still make less money than men for the same work. These are the ways finances are used against women and we are just waking up to the connection. I am so grateful for women like you Mary Trump! You get it! I am thankful you write about your own experiences even though I'm sure it's often painful. We need more voices like yours to help others connect the dots to what is happening around us. Thank you Mary for giving us a voice and help us see the Good in Us.
I survived COVID and continue to survive its lingering effects. I got COVID between Christmas and New Year's last year, right before the vaccines came out. I worked in a position that required us to be out in the community to ensure safety of vulnerable citizens. I was crazy sick for two weeks, and literally couldn't breathe or move or do anything. I spent three of those days thinking I was really going to die because I just couldn't breathe, but I didn't want to go to the hospital because no one who went to the hospital at the time was coming out alive. I also thought Jan 6 was a hallucination (imagine my horror when I learned it was true a few weeks later). Anyway, there's nothing quite like death that shines some real perspective on life. Thankfully I survived, but it took FOREVER for breathing and thinking to come back to kinda sorta normal. In August I found myself in the ER with heart problems. An inflammation of the heart. I used to run 5 miles 4-5 times a week. I had no prior medical conditions at all. And I'm fairly young. All the doctors got so incredibly defensive about this being a result of the vaccines. I wasn't in any way trying to attack the validity or the need for the vaccines. In fact, I believe getting the vaccine actually helped alleviate some of the long-term effects I was experiencing. But the medical professionals kept insisting it wasn't the vaccines and told me to manage my stress. Okayyyy. Since I couldn't just up and leave the US to alleviate said stress, I did the next best thing. I decided to leave my hard-earned and high-stress position to pursue my actual calling. Where this road will lead I'm not entirely sure, but I'm super excited. Out of the s%#@show that was 2021, I gained life. And for that I am immeasurably thankful.
I dealt with a recurrence of breast cancer during the height of the 2020 pandemic, so 2021 was a breeze. Got vaccinated, started shopping for myself again instead of using a delivery service -- an unexpected thrill -- and went back to Pilates classes. First unmasked, then with the delta variant, masked and this last week of the year, unfortunately, staying home to avoid all the crazy unmasked Floridians out there. My wishes for 2022: Continued health, a slowing of COVID cases so I can go back to classes, the sound defeat of Ron DeSantis and the Democrats growing balls and saving our democracy. Here's wishing all of us a healthy, happy New Year!
I got off my ass and did something. I went downstairs and finally cleaned out my basement workshop, which for years had been a metaphor for my life. For me, this was beating some depression I'd been feeling for a very long time for no reasons I could put my finger on. It meant more to me than anything to discover I was salvageable. It's nice to feel real happiness again. I'm not out of the woods yet, but I feel pretty certain things will be okay (notwithstanding our current political situation of course.)
I had two bright spots in 2021. First, I swam with a sea turtle in Hawaii. It came to me, stayed close even when I was trying to move back, and we communicated, somehow. It was life changing. My second was to be part of a group that planned a free community event to encourage people of all types to come together and get to know each other. We provided food, entertainment, games, yoga, and music - children were celebrated with cake walks and crafts. Everywhere I looked people were talking with people who didn't look like them! I called it our 1 Human Family Festival - and I had tears in my eyes by the end of it for all the sweet moments!
Hi, Mary! Getting to know you better and reading your books, has been a really good thing! Also, my husband, who was told he has the most aggressive bladder cancer imaginable and would only live 4 months, has been treated by Keytruda, immunotherapy, and is in total remission! Now we were told that it will only stay in remission with ongoing treatments ever 6 weeks, the insurance company is continuing to pay for the treatments, minus deductibles and co-payments, the treatments appear to do no harm and a miraculous amount of good. I wanted to share this so other people with cancer can ask about immunotherapy! When it works, it is a game-changer! This is the same treatment former President Carter has received for his brain cancer.
I agree, the past two years have been really, really hard, for both personal reasons and because of the craziness going on in our country. We live in a deep red state. It feels so strange to feel so alone in the way we see the world. We have had to work hard to remain loving and compassionate towards people who think so differently than we do. I pray that justice comes forth in 2022 and Uncle Donald is held accountable for his many acts of evil. I pray that we can all know as much truth as is possible, and come together as a country around democratic principles and not have to be ashamed to be an American for the way our people are behaving towards each other.
Thank you for your voice and the time you take to share your thoughts with us.
The best thing to happen to me, and my husband this year was finally being able to see and spend time with my sister-in-law, and our niece and nephew after almost two years apart due to Covid . In fact , we're meeting them for lunch tomorrow to start off the New Year . Also, after emailing President Biden a poem that I wrote in support of the community of Surfside , here in Florida ( I live in Sunrise Florida ), in the mail I received a personal letter from President Biden . That was pretty good too lol !
I have similar ambivalence toward 2021. However, I was finally able to convince my 92 year old mother to move in with me so that I can provide consistent care for her. While that brought on a series of other difficult challenges, I am at peace and will always be thankful that happened. Now,all I ask of 2022 is health and peace. Not much, I know ;)
Hi Mary, you wonderful enduring smartypants! After years of being used by his employer (and under appreciated), but unable to find a better job, by son got a great job in a beautiful place with a humane employer! I'm his retired dad, but I was so happy for him, I felt like it had happened to me.
I had the go-ahead to give a kidney to a stranger, which will happen in about 5 weeks. Hopefully the recipient will have a better 2022! I'll be 160 grammes lighter - result! Hope yours is as good as you wish, Ms Trump!
Situational depression didn’t win. I dug deeper and found more in me to care about and look forward to doing. Second most tough time in my life so there’s that. People such as yourself have been very helpful to keep your voice like a beacon of something good. Thanks. Happy New Year. I hope this can get better for everyone’s sake.
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My dog Fitbit and I became very close. He found unique ways to get me out of bed. When I stood in the middle of the room not knowing where I was going he’d grab my sleeve and take me somewhere, usually a chair, sometimes to my cup of coffee. Once he brought me his leash, handed me the end with the snap while he held onto the loop end and led me outside. Fitbit never let me give up. Many thanks also to Diana, Ronda Cress, Kasey Rogers... I hope I left no one out. <3
2021 was the worst ever year of my life not even counting covid. Because of the Texas Governments incompendence and their cronies, the Texas power grid failed when temp down to zero. My Sprinkler systems exploded in the ceiling of my condo destroying all contents (everything). The only thing that survived was a pair of bright orange neon tennis shoes. For nine months my dogs and I lived in and out of hotels, in the car, and with a friend with 5 cats. To hell with 2021.
I got a new yellow lab puppy to take me on walks and have adventures with. I'm learning how to make a quilt, and picked up knitting again. You have to keep busy in order to keep your sanity!
I believe the best thing over the last 18 months was watching Aussies practically turn back the clock during lockdown to learn healthy pastimes and games. People returned to reading; old fashioned board/card games; Lego and Meccano; jigsaw puzzles; learning handcrafts such as embroidery, carpentry, soap making...going for family walks and playing 'Count the Bears'; kids chalking colourful messages and flowers on the footpaths; a lot of people cleaned out and/or renovated and put what they longer needed on the verge for recycling by others...So many good things. I just hope we have learnt to hang onto these good lessons. Best and Blessings for the New Year, Mary, to you and yours.
I hadn’t had a mammogram in three years. I’m a terrible procrastinator! In January I had an inkling that something was wrong so I made myself go in. Turns out I had breast cancer, but because we caught it so early, I had two surgeries and radiation and I’m all good now! We even got to go to Punta Cana with our daughter’s family between surgery and radiation. Even though life is crazy, I have so much to be grateful for. Here’s to wishing all of you a marvelous 2022!
I just read that Betty White died today. She was a trailblazer for her time, acting well into her 90s. I’ve been reading a book about feminist saints in history. I support women running for elected office. I emotionally support my female friends in everything they do, encouraging them to be true to themselves and be the person they want to be rather than taking on expectations of who others think they should be. It’s a hard road for many and that’s why women need to support other women. That’s been my focus for a number of years, but especially the last 2 years. It has been a very difficult couple years for most of us. My New Year’s resolutions are to further decrease my carbon footprint and to be kinder to those I don’t understand. I already donated my Keurig and bought a regular coffee pot because I couldn’t any longer think about all those plastic pods in our oceans. What I wish for 2022 is to see your uncle Donald in prison clothes along with his most horrendous sycophants. An end to Covid would be awesome, but I think the chances of that happening are nil. Be safe everyone!
The “good thing” about 2021 for me, was actually about appreciating the good in my life; those in-the-moment moments when I felt grateful for the love and joy in my life.
My liberal little niece finally got vaccinated in December, after trying to convince her Republican parents for a year now. Bonus, mom and stepdad got vaxxed, too. I'm so happy and profoundly relieved. Happy New Year, Mary, and hope it's a better one for all.
My daughter, who has a special needs child, has begun the process of adopting another special needs child they met, but who's in foster care now. I am amazed daily by the fact I raised such a wonderful child. Every child deserves love & she has a heart full of love to give.
In a truly terrifying year, wherein our country went off the deep end, the best thing that happened to me was that i moved from GA to NY! It was a difficult move, because of timing and logistics, of course my age didn’t help, but I gathered up all our pets and miraculously found a house in the worst housing shortage our country has ever had, so for that I feel truly blessed. Now instead of being 15 hours away from my daughters I’m 15 minutes away, and that is a good thing! Good riddance 2021. Please 2022, be kinder.
Best thing that happened to me in 2021 was that I was able to receive vaccinations against a virus that had every intention of killing me. So here I still am, spending time with children and grandchildren.
I wish you and yours a very happy new year and may 2022 bring a thorough cleansing of insurrectionist from our lives.
As a musician, (singer, cellist, pianist), Covid stopped the music for a very long time. I am so grateful that the music came back this year, and so far I have avoided getting Covid and doing everything I can to avoid it.
I read Heather Cox Richardson's newsletters, became your fan, started longform epistolary relationships with some wonderful people, did some birding, pottery, and long walks as part of a personal respite. It helped reach some fellow humans in a more intimate, giving, and soulful way.
Getting to know YOU. I really appreciate your candid, intelligent insights into "trumpy" and how we can prepare to handle the cruelty that has been unleashed since Donald Trump began his political campaign in 2015.
Some cherished memories I had in 2021 were the publication of my articles in a widely circulation newspaper after shying away too often that they may not be good enough for publication but they actually were.
My loved ones & myself all did the right thing and protected oursleves with vaccine shots, endured the isolation, and sometimes loneliness; but all-in-all, spirits remained high. This pandemic has taught me to practice gratitude every.damn.day!
2021. January 6th, I was working for a police department right across the river from The Siege, so the experience was horrifying for weeks. Seeing traitors walking back to their hotels from the metro all afternoon was enraging and sickening.
Also, in January, I had a routine pap after 3 years (OK after 60),
February, the results came back clear EXCEPT for being flagged for a possible viral type that can cause cancer.
March 22nd, called while at work with a diagnosis of Adenocarcinoma In Situ, needing a radical hysterectomy asap.
Couldn't even see the gyn oncological surgeon until May 12th.
Retired June 18 (deflated event, of course).
July 16th, modified radical hysterectomy, laparoscopically, by the BEST surgeon in the DMV. Biopsies of related organs: CLEAR!
Recovered, had movers remove most everything (economic move due to retirement) September, painters for 3 weeks, new carpet October, listed house.
No offers...UNTIL NEW YEAR'S EVE!
Signed the contract last night at 7.
A final, rational, wonderful way to end this terrible year <3
Thank you, Mary. Throughout all the challenges of the year's events, I feel my actions and words as an individual matter more than ever before in my long lifetime. Each of us has the awesome responsibility to care about others, keep ourselves, our families and others safe, and vote to save democracy. It is a profound power and one we should take very seriously.
This past year has been harrowing for sure and as you said Mary time still has no meaning which is unnerving.
Here are some good things that happened to me this past year- my bank account has remained steady and I don't have to worry about money like I did for many years (long story), I got to see some friends in person after we got vaccinated and before the Delta wave hit (during the summer), my Mom and I were able to do some of what we would normally do together in person during non-COVID times throughout this year and because of the work I do I'm helping Illinois students learn about LGBTQ history since it's now a mandated curriculum for all K-12 public schools in the state (HB 246).
Also, I'm so glad we've gotten to know you Mary. Having your presence on the national scene has helped my mental state A LOT because you were able to say in your various media appearances, books, your podcast and this blog what we've been saying in our smaller circles about the state of this country and that has made me feel better. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Onward to 2022, which hopefully has to be a better year.
My partner and I are in our 70's, I'm coasting to 80 and we survived Covid. We are vaccinated and boosted and always wear masks when out. The worst of 2021 was not just the insurrection itself, but the lack of prosecution for Trump and many of hs allies; I want him for treason and sedition. I truly believe, at this point, giving Garland the AG job because he didn't get the SCJ job was a huge mistake. Happy New Year Mary
I live in Alabama, (Rural SW) Pennsylvania, where I'm still seeing nasty flags and banners, especially in the yards of the coal barons. I survived by making a small vegetable garden, and making pickles and jellies. I'm a retired social worker, but volunteer my time. The stay at home gave me the time to do local historical research. I loved it. Your book was also a highlight of the year! Thank you for sharing.
Mary, knowing you through print is a privilege. I've read your books, but I think saying I enjoyed them would be an oxymoron. LOL They were incredibly well written and thought provoking. The Reckoning was the best and most frightening book on history I have read. And my Mom and Grandmother were Holocaust survivors. You are an inspiration to so many that feel doomed coming from horrific families. Your Dad must have been a great man to have given the world a brilliant woman such as you. Hopefully, 2022 will usher in days that you no longer are embarrassed by your family name. You have changed the name to resilience, grace, and strength. Something all of us aspire to. Mazel tov.
We were languishing in Michigan. We decided we needed an adventure, bought a house (unseen except through video call), and moved to Vermont in October. Best thing we could have done for ourselves. Even our dog is doing better. Saw my daughter-in-law and her mom for the first time in a couple years when they, and my son, came to visit the new house. None of us have had COVID and we are all 3-vaccined. Thank you for posting your insights.
What does it say that nothing immediately jumped to mind? Well, I did not start drinking again (I had quit in May 2020), so that's a huge good thing. But I guess the high point was that I got to work all year as a vaccinator, making sure people were safe from this horrible virus. I've vaccinated in large scale clinics, in people's homes and cars, in tents, in churches—anywhere I could talk someone into letting me vaccinate them. I've vaccinated people aged 5 to 102!
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(I say your name 3 times and click my heels to bring the blessings of the gods upon you and your readers!) And I just wanted to say, that when you move to New York, Woman, you move in BIG! A great Book! A scintIllating pod cast! A brilliant Substack!
2022 is gonna be sparkling!
I rarely comment online but wanted to share my personal 2021 experience, hoping to inspire others who are struggling, encouraging everyone reading this to keep on hanging in there, despite whatever life is currently throwing at you.
I’ve been mostly bedridden after breaking my back on January 12th, 3 spinal fractures in all. I’ve lost count of hospitalizations, procedures, surgeries, etc.
Still can’t stand or walk on my own, but am aware of slow progress.
Also, for first 7 months of this year, I was legally blind, fast-growing cataracts now removed, tho even those surgeries had to be done under general anesthesia because of broken back.The good news from that: I can read my Christmas books now and see movies clearly!
I've walked through spiritual fire this year and feel transformed by countless dark days/nights of the soul tho I'm still figuring out what that means. Thus far, focusing on just being a jumper-cable for joy and helping/giving/loving as I can feels really good. In this tech age, so much of that can be done from wherever we are. Even our rehabilitation-recliners. Aho. :^)
Hope still floats and the Light still shines.
And, it always will.
Trust that as an inner promise that you secretly make to yourself.
May the New Year Bring the Peace and Healing We All Seek.
Keep up the great work, Mary...Thank You for being a "jumper-cable" for Truth!
Sandra (Sandy) Cline
Yes, the hits just kept coming. At 71, I’ve been in recovery from alcoholism for 12 years. I didn’t slip in 2020 or 2021, so I win, in spite of the waves of depression and loneliness that assailed. Just as we started putting things back together, another wave would hit, including my oldest granddaughter being diagnosed with glioblastoma. We persevere. Give it your best shot, 2022!😬
In November, I adopted Annie, my loving, loyal, 8-year-old yellow Labrador retriever. She takes me on walks and adventures several times a day, every day and—most important—at my leisurely 74-year-old pace! We rescued each other in what was yet another year of isolation for elders (and others, obviously).
We bought a condo we could afford with a view of Lake Michigan in Racine WI and are renovating it for our retirement in 2022. I'm taking my redundant Blue vote from Illinois to where it will matter. Already contributed to the (D) Lt. Gov who will challenge the moronic Ron Johnson for the Senate!
For ten years after my husband's death, I struggled to confront the impact of the financial and emotional abuse I suffered throughout my 25 year marriage. I was about to finally leave him when he was diagnosed with cancer and expected to live for just months. After his death, I had to deal with the mess I was left with on top of raising our 13yr old twins. It was only when I wrote a memoir to untangle the emotional upheaval that I finally stopped having nightmares about him and could move forward. This past April, my memoir (Our Better Selves: From Secrets and Lies to Healing and Forgiveness) was published and the response has been so up-lifting. So many women have experienced similar things and have no way to express their emotions or think they're the only one. Talking about it to others has helped us heal. But equally important, the book opens the door for discussions about the connection between domestic and financial abuse. This may seem like a leap, but the whole experience had me thinking about the ways our gov't uses many of the same tactics to thwart equality for women. Because legislation is now so influenced by money in politics, laws and rules are crafted in ways that keep women from having an equal say. An example of this would be all the money that was raised to get Amy Coney Barrett on the Supreme Court and now abortion rights are now tenuous at best. Republicans refuse to address issues that impact women the most like child care, paid family leave and universal pre-K. And, we still make less money than men for the same work. These are the ways finances are used against women and we are just waking up to the connection. I am so grateful for women like you Mary Trump! You get it! I am thankful you write about your own experiences even though I'm sure it's often painful. We need more voices like yours to help others connect the dots to what is happening around us. Thank you Mary for giving us a voice and help us see the Good in Us.
I met the man I'm going to marry - my first marriage ever - and I am a 72-yr-old grown-up hippie chick! If THAT ain't sumthin'!!
Went from homeless center in Aug to college roommates. Have a job & am sitting for my LCSW in 2.5 wks. No covid for me, amen vax/booster
I survived COVID and continue to survive its lingering effects. I got COVID between Christmas and New Year's last year, right before the vaccines came out. I worked in a position that required us to be out in the community to ensure safety of vulnerable citizens. I was crazy sick for two weeks, and literally couldn't breathe or move or do anything. I spent three of those days thinking I was really going to die because I just couldn't breathe, but I didn't want to go to the hospital because no one who went to the hospital at the time was coming out alive. I also thought Jan 6 was a hallucination (imagine my horror when I learned it was true a few weeks later). Anyway, there's nothing quite like death that shines some real perspective on life. Thankfully I survived, but it took FOREVER for breathing and thinking to come back to kinda sorta normal. In August I found myself in the ER with heart problems. An inflammation of the heart. I used to run 5 miles 4-5 times a week. I had no prior medical conditions at all. And I'm fairly young. All the doctors got so incredibly defensive about this being a result of the vaccines. I wasn't in any way trying to attack the validity or the need for the vaccines. In fact, I believe getting the vaccine actually helped alleviate some of the long-term effects I was experiencing. But the medical professionals kept insisting it wasn't the vaccines and told me to manage my stress. Okayyyy. Since I couldn't just up and leave the US to alleviate said stress, I did the next best thing. I decided to leave my hard-earned and high-stress position to pursue my actual calling. Where this road will lead I'm not entirely sure, but I'm super excited. Out of the s%#@show that was 2021, I gained life. And for that I am immeasurably thankful.
I dealt with a recurrence of breast cancer during the height of the 2020 pandemic, so 2021 was a breeze. Got vaccinated, started shopping for myself again instead of using a delivery service -- an unexpected thrill -- and went back to Pilates classes. First unmasked, then with the delta variant, masked and this last week of the year, unfortunately, staying home to avoid all the crazy unmasked Floridians out there. My wishes for 2022: Continued health, a slowing of COVID cases so I can go back to classes, the sound defeat of Ron DeSantis and the Democrats growing balls and saving our democracy. Here's wishing all of us a healthy, happy New Year!
I finished chemo and radiation (for Hodgkin’s lymphoma and am now cancer free!
I got off my ass and did something. I went downstairs and finally cleaned out my basement workshop, which for years had been a metaphor for my life. For me, this was beating some depression I'd been feeling for a very long time for no reasons I could put my finger on. It meant more to me than anything to discover I was salvageable. It's nice to feel real happiness again. I'm not out of the woods yet, but I feel pretty certain things will be okay (notwithstanding our current political situation of course.)
I had two bright spots in 2021. First, I swam with a sea turtle in Hawaii. It came to me, stayed close even when I was trying to move back, and we communicated, somehow. It was life changing. My second was to be part of a group that planned a free community event to encourage people of all types to come together and get to know each other. We provided food, entertainment, games, yoga, and music - children were celebrated with cake walks and crafts. Everywhere I looked people were talking with people who didn't look like them! I called it our 1 Human Family Festival - and I had tears in my eyes by the end of it for all the sweet moments!
Hi, Mary! Getting to know you better and reading your books, has been a really good thing! Also, my husband, who was told he has the most aggressive bladder cancer imaginable and would only live 4 months, has been treated by Keytruda, immunotherapy, and is in total remission! Now we were told that it will only stay in remission with ongoing treatments ever 6 weeks, the insurance company is continuing to pay for the treatments, minus deductibles and co-payments, the treatments appear to do no harm and a miraculous amount of good. I wanted to share this so other people with cancer can ask about immunotherapy! When it works, it is a game-changer! This is the same treatment former President Carter has received for his brain cancer.
I agree, the past two years have been really, really hard, for both personal reasons and because of the craziness going on in our country. We live in a deep red state. It feels so strange to feel so alone in the way we see the world. We have had to work hard to remain loving and compassionate towards people who think so differently than we do. I pray that justice comes forth in 2022 and Uncle Donald is held accountable for his many acts of evil. I pray that we can all know as much truth as is possible, and come together as a country around democratic principles and not have to be ashamed to be an American for the way our people are behaving towards each other.
Thank you for your voice and the time you take to share your thoughts with us.
The best thing to happen to me, and my husband this year was finally being able to see and spend time with my sister-in-law, and our niece and nephew after almost two years apart due to Covid . In fact , we're meeting them for lunch tomorrow to start off the New Year . Also, after emailing President Biden a poem that I wrote in support of the community of Surfside , here in Florida ( I live in Sunrise Florida ), in the mail I received a personal letter from President Biden . That was pretty good too lol !
I have similar ambivalence toward 2021. However, I was finally able to convince my 92 year old mother to move in with me so that I can provide consistent care for her. While that brought on a series of other difficult challenges, I am at peace and will always be thankful that happened. Now,all I ask of 2022 is health and peace. Not much, I know ;)
Hi Mary, you wonderful enduring smartypants! After years of being used by his employer (and under appreciated), but unable to find a better job, by son got a great job in a beautiful place with a humane employer! I'm his retired dad, but I was so happy for him, I felt like it had happened to me.
I had the go-ahead to give a kidney to a stranger, which will happen in about 5 weeks. Hopefully the recipient will have a better 2022! I'll be 160 grammes lighter - result! Hope yours is as good as you wish, Ms Trump!
Situational depression didn’t win. I dug deeper and found more in me to care about and look forward to doing. Second most tough time in my life so there’s that. People such as yourself have been very helpful to keep your voice like a beacon of something good. Thanks. Happy New Year. I hope this can get better for everyone’s sake.
My dog Fitbit and I became very close. He found unique ways to get me out of bed. When I stood in the middle of the room not knowing where I was going he’d grab my sleeve and take me somewhere, usually a chair, sometimes to my cup of coffee. Once he brought me his leash, handed me the end with the snap while he held onto the loop end and led me outside. Fitbit never let me give up. Many thanks also to Diana, Ronda Cress, Kasey Rogers... I hope I left no one out. <3
2021 was the worst ever year of my life not even counting covid. Because of the Texas Governments incompendence and their cronies, the Texas power grid failed when temp down to zero. My Sprinkler systems exploded in the ceiling of my condo destroying all contents (everything). The only thing that survived was a pair of bright orange neon tennis shoes. For nine months my dogs and I lived in and out of hotels, in the car, and with a friend with 5 cats. To hell with 2021.
I sold my business and paid off my mortgage. In five months I’ll be fully retired and will start on my bucket list.
I got a new yellow lab puppy to take me on walks and have adventures with. I'm learning how to make a quilt, and picked up knitting again. You have to keep busy in order to keep your sanity!
I believe the best thing over the last 18 months was watching Aussies practically turn back the clock during lockdown to learn healthy pastimes and games. People returned to reading; old fashioned board/card games; Lego and Meccano; jigsaw puzzles; learning handcrafts such as embroidery, carpentry, soap making...going for family walks and playing 'Count the Bears'; kids chalking colourful messages and flowers on the footpaths; a lot of people cleaned out and/or renovated and put what they longer needed on the verge for recycling by others...So many good things. I just hope we have learnt to hang onto these good lessons. Best and Blessings for the New Year, Mary, to you and yours.
I hadn’t had a mammogram in three years. I’m a terrible procrastinator! In January I had an inkling that something was wrong so I made myself go in. Turns out I had breast cancer, but because we caught it so early, I had two surgeries and radiation and I’m all good now! We even got to go to Punta Cana with our daughter’s family between surgery and radiation. Even though life is crazy, I have so much to be grateful for. Here’s to wishing all of you a marvelous 2022!
The birth of my precious Granddaughter. I now know a new level of love. ❤️
I just read that Betty White died today. She was a trailblazer for her time, acting well into her 90s. I’ve been reading a book about feminist saints in history. I support women running for elected office. I emotionally support my female friends in everything they do, encouraging them to be true to themselves and be the person they want to be rather than taking on expectations of who others think they should be. It’s a hard road for many and that’s why women need to support other women. That’s been my focus for a number of years, but especially the last 2 years. It has been a very difficult couple years for most of us. My New Year’s resolutions are to further decrease my carbon footprint and to be kinder to those I don’t understand. I already donated my Keurig and bought a regular coffee pot because I couldn’t any longer think about all those plastic pods in our oceans. What I wish for 2022 is to see your uncle Donald in prison clothes along with his most horrendous sycophants. An end to Covid would be awesome, but I think the chances of that happening are nil. Be safe everyone!
I started a newsletter on curiosity, and then a much respected, massively influential author mentioned it in her newsletter - *twice*.
It was really wild.
The “good thing” about 2021 for me, was actually about appreciating the good in my life; those in-the-moment moments when I felt grateful for the love and joy in my life.
My liberal little niece finally got vaccinated in December, after trying to convince her Republican parents for a year now. Bonus, mom and stepdad got vaxxed, too. I'm so happy and profoundly relieved. Happy New Year, Mary, and hope it's a better one for all.
My daughter, who has a special needs child, has begun the process of adopting another special needs child they met, but who's in foster care now. I am amazed daily by the fact I raised such a wonderful child. Every child deserves love & she has a heart full of love to give.
In a truly terrifying year, wherein our country went off the deep end, the best thing that happened to me was that i moved from GA to NY! It was a difficult move, because of timing and logistics, of course my age didn’t help, but I gathered up all our pets and miraculously found a house in the worst housing shortage our country has ever had, so for that I feel truly blessed. Now instead of being 15 hours away from my daughters I’m 15 minutes away, and that is a good thing! Good riddance 2021. Please 2022, be kinder.
Best thing that happened to me in 2021 was that I was able to receive vaccinations against a virus that had every intention of killing me. So here I still am, spending time with children and grandchildren.
I wish you and yours a very happy new year and may 2022 bring a thorough cleansing of insurrectionist from our lives.
As a musician, (singer, cellist, pianist), Covid stopped the music for a very long time. I am so grateful that the music came back this year, and so far I have avoided getting Covid and doing everything I can to avoid it.
I read Heather Cox Richardson's newsletters, became your fan, started longform epistolary relationships with some wonderful people, did some birding, pottery, and long walks as part of a personal respite. It helped reach some fellow humans in a more intimate, giving, and soulful way.
Getting to know YOU. I really appreciate your candid, intelligent insights into "trumpy" and how we can prepare to handle the cruelty that has been unleashed since Donald Trump began his political campaign in 2015.
Some cherished memories I had in 2021 were the publication of my articles in a widely circulation newspaper after shying away too often that they may not be good enough for publication but they actually were.
My loved ones & myself all did the right thing and protected oursleves with vaccine shots, endured the isolation, and sometimes loneliness; but all-in-all, spirits remained high. This pandemic has taught me to practice gratitude every.damn.day!
Well, I’m thankful to be double vaxxed and boosted. That was a highlight of 2021 for me.
2021. January 6th, I was working for a police department right across the river from The Siege, so the experience was horrifying for weeks. Seeing traitors walking back to their hotels from the metro all afternoon was enraging and sickening.
Also, in January, I had a routine pap after 3 years (OK after 60),
February, the results came back clear EXCEPT for being flagged for a possible viral type that can cause cancer.
March 22nd, called while at work with a diagnosis of Adenocarcinoma In Situ, needing a radical hysterectomy asap.
Couldn't even see the gyn oncological surgeon until May 12th.
Retired June 18 (deflated event, of course).
July 16th, modified radical hysterectomy, laparoscopically, by the BEST surgeon in the DMV. Biopsies of related organs: CLEAR!
Recovered, had movers remove most everything (economic move due to retirement) September, painters for 3 weeks, new carpet October, listed house.
No offers...UNTIL NEW YEAR'S EVE!
Signed the contract last night at 7.
A final, rational, wonderful way to end this terrible year <3
Thank you, Mary. Throughout all the challenges of the year's events, I feel my actions and words as an individual matter more than ever before in my long lifetime. Each of us has the awesome responsibility to care about others, keep ourselves, our families and others safe, and vote to save democracy. It is a profound power and one we should take very seriously.
a working family don't have the financial luxury to think about how bad things are, just trying to survive day by day, is a full plate.
This past year has been harrowing for sure and as you said Mary time still has no meaning which is unnerving.
Here are some good things that happened to me this past year- my bank account has remained steady and I don't have to worry about money like I did for many years (long story), I got to see some friends in person after we got vaccinated and before the Delta wave hit (during the summer), my Mom and I were able to do some of what we would normally do together in person during non-COVID times throughout this year and because of the work I do I'm helping Illinois students learn about LGBTQ history since it's now a mandated curriculum for all K-12 public schools in the state (HB 246).
Also, I'm so glad we've gotten to know you Mary. Having your presence on the national scene has helped my mental state A LOT because you were able to say in your various media appearances, books, your podcast and this blog what we've been saying in our smaller circles about the state of this country and that has made me feel better. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Onward to 2022, which hopefully has to be a better year.
My partner and I are in our 70's, I'm coasting to 80 and we survived Covid. We are vaccinated and boosted and always wear masks when out. The worst of 2021 was not just the insurrection itself, but the lack of prosecution for Trump and many of hs allies; I want him for treason and sedition. I truly believe, at this point, giving Garland the AG job because he didn't get the SCJ job was a huge mistake. Happy New Year Mary
I didn't kill anybody for not wearing a mask. There were a few verbal exchanges, however.
Our gandson was born. Our elderly dogs didn't die. And my 94-year-old vaxxed mother survived a bout with Covid.
I live in Alabama, (Rural SW) Pennsylvania, where I'm still seeing nasty flags and banners, especially in the yards of the coal barons. I survived by making a small vegetable garden, and making pickles and jellies. I'm a retired social worker, but volunteer my time. The stay at home gave me the time to do local historical research. I loved it. Your book was also a highlight of the year! Thank you for sharing.
Mary, knowing you through print is a privilege. I've read your books, but I think saying I enjoyed them would be an oxymoron. LOL They were incredibly well written and thought provoking. The Reckoning was the best and most frightening book on history I have read. And my Mom and Grandmother were Holocaust survivors. You are an inspiration to so many that feel doomed coming from horrific families. Your Dad must have been a great man to have given the world a brilliant woman such as you. Hopefully, 2022 will usher in days that you no longer are embarrassed by your family name. You have changed the name to resilience, grace, and strength. Something all of us aspire to. Mazel tov.
We were languishing in Michigan. We decided we needed an adventure, bought a house (unseen except through video call), and moved to Vermont in October. Best thing we could have done for ourselves. Even our dog is doing better. Saw my daughter-in-law and her mom for the first time in a couple years when they, and my son, came to visit the new house. None of us have had COVID and we are all 3-vaccined. Thank you for posting your insights.